This week was a challenging one. Character building week.
It was on Saturday, as I was digesting my week, that I realized there’s a metamorphosis happening in my professional and personal life at the same time.
I’m surrounded by amazing people, and I’m spending a ton of time working on myself and my approach to life. This is causing friction on both sides of my life.
I’m pushing myself uphill quickly and, in a few situations, the climb up the hill, whether it’s the incline or the altitude, is causing instability in my relationships.
My first comment the other day after a session with my mentor Rex…
I’m more in love with the person you’re going to be than the one you are today. I’m saying this in reference to a person’s ability to live in alignment with love or to put it even more simply… As love.
I’ve spent so much time with two very impactful people, Rex and Chris, that I completely embrace the more I get frustrated or triggered, the more I need to unpack why I’m feeling that way.
It doesn’t mean it’s easy and that I “come to” immediately, but I try to stay neutral and truly hear their feedback.
But… The background…
The automatic decision system tells us we’re in danger so nearly all people go into defence mode. Don Miguel Ruiz calls it “The dream” in his book.
They never really wake up from this dream, by the way.
“In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz describes human life as a “dream” or a mental projection where we perceive reality through learned beliefs, often calling our collective existence the “dream of the planet“. He explains that society, culture, and upbringing “domesticate” humans, creating a false, fear-based dream, and that by changing our inner agreements, we can awaken to a new, peaceful, personal dream.
Well, I know that ignorance is bliss, but growth is on the other side of ignorance.
It just depends on what life you desire to live.
For me, I must surround myself with people trying their best to live in alignment. I can easily tilt the wrong way very quickly.
I can fall back into the dream.
This leads me into my biggest lesson from last week. For most of my life, I’ve in many ways, tried to push too hard to get people out of their dreams.
I’ve spent countless hours explaining to people why they’re getting the outcome they’re getting and the necessary steps to change those outcomes.
If they didn’t want to hear it, I pushed harder.
In general, I’ve been successful. I’ve helped people get into alignment and live better lives. I’ve also helped people shut down, stay in their dream, and triggered their stubborn side to such a strong degree they will NEVER come out of that dream.
They will never live in alignment.
Why push so hard? Well, put simply… It makes me feel better knowing I did something good. That external event made me feel better. It made me feel more of a purpose.
“You don’t need the external event to feel better. You can just be/feel better.” – Rex
Now, as for my mindset and those who choose to ride alongside me.
Everything worthwhile is uphill… But I shouldn’t try to force people to go uphill without their permission to apply force.
That’s my focus, especially in a time where I’m feeling friction all over the damn place. There are moving parts in just about every part of my life, and it’s making me want to FORCE.
I shall do the opposite!
Breath. Exercise. Focus. But most importantly, make all of my decisions from center, as love.
It’s a big week with a lot on the table. Chin up, shoulders back.
– SJ